I spotted him on Facebook. He had the same surname, my maiden name, an unusual name that I never come across outside my family. Was this Brian standing on a mountain top a relative? He was gazing across a rolling green landscape. His words with the picture were ‘Fantastic trail and so therapeutic.’
I followed the link to a national park in New Zealand, well he could still be a relative. On a whim I posted a comment.
‘Fantastic scenery. I wonder if we could be related, I have the same surname.’
Then I realised he was probably asleep, night time in New Zealand. I pondered which Facebook friends we could have in common, how else would I be seeing his post?

The next morning there was a brief reply to my comment.
‘Could well be, I came out here years ago.’
I was soon on the phone to Mum, she kept tabs on Dad’s relatives better than he had done.
‘Brian, Brian…hmmm your Dad’s cousin Sheila had a Brian who went out to New Zealand. I always used to send him a Christmas card, only ever got one back. Dad wondered why I bothered. I guess I did it for Sheila’s sake, her only son. He didn’t get over for her funeral; sent an ambiguous letter, not sure if it was health or money, but it is a long way. I never actually met him, not sure how old.’
I was curious. ‘Do you still have his address, I mean he probably moved around and never got your cards. But I could send him a Christmas card, from all the comments sounds like he’s been having a hard time.’
‘Bring your pill round tomorrow and show me, might not even be our Brian.’
‘You mean my tablet?’
‘Yes that screen thingy you’re always playing with.’

Mum and I checked him out, certainly seemed to be the real Brian. He had led an adventurous life, looking at some of his posts and he sounded an interesting chap.
I sent him a card, there was still time to post airmail across the world. That seemed less intrusive than trying to contact him on Messenger. Without thinking I put one of my charity address stickers on the back of the envelope.

Yesterday I had just returned from walking the dog in the rain, wet hair plastered on my face, muddy jeans and socks left by the back door, when I heard the doorbell. I was about to dart through the hall and dash upstairs to get showered and ready for my afternoon shift. I was not expecting anyone, perhaps John had ordered something from Amazon. I put my dressing gown on and went back downstairs to check if a parcel had been left.
I didn’t recognise him at first, drenched and with a shabby rain soaked bag at his side.
‘Surprise, surprise, thanks for your card, you don’t know how good it was to hear from someone at home.’
John wasn’t too pleased to come home late that evening and find we had a guest in the spare room, a guest wearing his dressing gown. Turns out he is not as interesting as his Facebook persona and apparently has far worse problems than his posts implied. Almost two weeks till Christmas and we don’t know what his plans are, but they include Christmas with ‘his family.’
A Christmas favourite that might cheer Brian up.

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I think the moral of this story is to stay away from possible distant relatives on Facebook.
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Absolutely
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😀
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I have come across a few with my maiden name, but I didn’t tell them my address!
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Wise decision!
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Some more aptly name Facebook as Fakebook. I once received a contact out of the blue from a person with my surname whom I wasn’t familiar with. When I checked her friends, everyone was a Springer. It amuses me every year when her name comes up and people wish her a happy birthday, even though she’s posted nothing since then.
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That is funny Pete. I think you should suggest a real life get together for all those Facebook Springers. Years ago I googled my maiden name and there seemed to be far more in the USA than here and even a US town.
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My great Uncle was named Brian Tidalscribe. I can’t wait to do some research.
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Ha ha Geoff, don’t send him over to me!
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It is interesting to find a long lost relative! If your Christmas holidays include your mother too, she might be even more thrilled to see Sheila’s son.
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Hello Marina, yes most of us have long lost relatives who might be found on the internet or by DNA sites.
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And will he ever leave? Nicely done, Janet. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thanks Pete, I fear not…
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I have a similar story and an unusual maiden name, although my visitor turned up from Australia. His mother had remarried and never discussed his background, but after she died he started some investigation into family history, and discovered relatives in New Zealand with whom I keep in contact.
I wouldn’t usually give out my address to ‘strangers’ but by arrangement he turned up on my doorstep – and looked the spitting image of me! He did go home after the visit but there was no denying the resemblance. It was actually quite spooky.
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Oh that is fascinating, sometimes you don’t need Ancestry DNA to tell you if you are related.
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